The Destination Addiction
Why your happiness will never be “there”
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Beware of Destination Addiction: Why Your Happiness Will Never Be “There”
You’ve been lying to yourself your entire life, and the lie sounds something like this: “I’ll be happy when...”
When I get that job.
When I finally meet the right partner.
When I move to that city.
When I lose the weight.
When I start earning real money.
When, when, when…
At some point, you have to admit something brutally honest:
You’ve built a life that only begins later.
Your happiness is always postponed, always waiting for the next milestone, always living in a future that never arrives. You’re chasing a version of yourself that keeps moving one step ahead, and the tragedy is this: the more you wait for “when,” the more your life becomes a graveyard of unlived moments.
This isn’t hope. This isn’t planning. This is a disease, and it has a name: Destination Addiction.
And here’s the brutal truth: until you give up this idea, until you stop believing happiness is waiting for you somewhere in the future, it will never, ever be where you are.
The Geography of Happiness
Let me tell you what most people do.
They wake up every day and immediately start planning the escape. Not because their life is terrible. Not because they’re in danger. But because they’ve convinced themselves that fulfillment is a place or time in the future, they haven’t arrived at it yet.
So they change jobs. The new job is exciting for three weeks. Then the honeymoon ends, and they’re back to feeling empty. So they blame the job and start looking for the next one.
They end relationships. The new partner is perfect for three months. Then reality sets in, the flaws appear, and suddenly they’re wondering i’ll ever find their perfect soulmate in the future they haven’t reached yet.
They move cities. New place, new energy, new possibilities. For a while, everything feels fresh. Then the newness wears off, and they’re the same person with the same thoughts in a different home, staring at different walls, wondering why they still feel incomplete.
This is destination addiction. And it’s not a minor problem. It’s the core suffering of the modern human being.
The Mirage That Moves
Here’s what makes this addiction so devastating: it’s a mirage.
You know what a mirage is, yes? It’s that shimmering water you see in the desert when you’re dying of thirst. You run toward it, convinced that relief is just ahead. But the closer you get, the farther it moves.
That’s exactly what destination addiction does to your life.
Happiness always seems to be just one step away. One more achievement. One more change. One more escape from where you are right now.
But the moment you arrive, the moment you get what you thought you needed, the mirage shifts. The goalpost moves. And you’re back to square one, thirsty again, chasing the next shimmering promise on the horizon.
You know why? Because you brought yourself along. Wherever you go, there you are.
You Are the Constant in Every Equation
This is the insight that changes everything, so pay attention.
In every place you’ve been, in every relationship you’ve had, in every job you’ve worked, in every version of your life you’ve lived, there’s been one constant.
You.
Your mind. Your patterns. Your way of experiencing life. Your inability to be here, fully here, without wanting to be somewhere else.
And until you are conscious about this mind’s pattern and dissolve it by surrendering your mind to the inner Being, nothing else will matter.
You can change your entire external life. New country, new career, new partner, new body, new everything. But if you’re still carrying the same restless mind, the same belief that happiness is somewhere other than where you are, you’ll be miserable in new locations.
The spiritual teachers point to this again and again: “Wherever you go, there you are.”
It sounds like a joke, but it’s the most serious truth you’ll ever hear. You cannot relocate your way to peace. You cannot find happiness by constantly leaving where you are.
The Addiction to Becoming
Destination addiction is really just another form of a deeper disease: the addiction to becoming.
We’re obsessed with the future version of ourselves. The better, improved, upgraded, fixed version that doesn’t exist yet but surely will once we do all the right things.
We live in a constant state of becoming, never allowing ourselves to simply be.
But becoming is endless. There’s no finish line. The moment you become one thing, the mind immediately points to the next thing you need to become.
This is why people who achieve everything they set out to achieve still feel empty.
Where Happiness Actually Lives
So, where is happiness, if not in the next place or the next achievement?
Right here. Right now. In this moment, you’re probably not even present because you’re too busy planning the next one.
Happiness is not a destination. It’s not a place you arrive at after finishing your “bucket list”. It’s a way of being. A quality of presence. A choice to be fully here instead of mentally living somewhere else.
It’s when you focus your full attention inward, fully anchored in your inner body.
And here’s what nobody tells you: the moment you stop looking for happiness elsewhere, the moment you give up destination addiction completely, happiness appears exactly where you are.
Not because your circumstances magically improve. But because you finally stop resisting what is. You stop arguing with reality. You stop postponing your peace to some imaginary future.
When the Future Stops Calling
There’s a moment in every spiritual awakening when the future stops calling.
Not because you stop having plans or goals. But because you stop believing your peace depends on them.
You still move forward. You still create. You still engage with life. But you do it from the abundance of your Inner Being, not from the desperate hope that some future moment will finally make you whole.
This is what the teachers mean when they talk about desireless action. It’s not about becoming passive or unmotivated. It’s about acting without the hidden belief that action will save you from the insufficiency of now.
You work, but you don’t work to escape. You create, but you don’t create to prove your worth. You move toward goals, but you don’t need them to complete you.
Because you’re already complete. Already here. Already home.
Your One Assignment
Here’s the only spiritual practice you need today:
Whatever you’re doing right now, wherever you are, whoever you’re with, ask yourself: “Can I be fully here?”
Not later. Not when things are better. Not when you’ve fixed everything. Right now, exactly as it is.
Can you stop trying to get somewhere and just be here?
Can you give up the idea that happiness is waiting for you in the next moment and discover what’s available in this one?
That’s it. That’s the whole path.
Stop treating this moment as a layover on the way to somewhere better. Stop turning now into a stepping stone to a more important future.
This moment, this place, this life as it is right now, this is not preparation for living.
This is life.
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This is the it: Here’s the only spiritual practice you need today:
Whatever you’re doing right now, wherever you are, whoever you’re with, ask yourself: “Can I be fully here?”
Thanks for your wonderful work, I just want to bring another perspective, maybe the reason why people change jobs, relationships, etc. is because they see the only purpose as happiness, maybe happiness is supposed to be PART of human life but not the only thing?