How to Truly Forgive Someone Who Hurt You
How to Truly Forgive Someone Who Hurt You
And Be at Peace with Yourself
Everything You Know About Forgiveness Is Wrong
For 30 years before my spiritual awakening, my mind made me suffer with the illusion of difficult situations and people. I went through tremendous pain and suffering before I let go of my mind's identification with painful events or people. Later, I learned how to transform this suffering into inner forgiveness and realized peace. But beware: Everything you know about forgiveness is wrong. I will share with you what real forgiveness is!
In this article/video, you will learn one habit for transforming your day-to-day suffering into inner peace. You will know the truth about transforming difficult times into miracles. Once you understand this truth, you will be completely free from mental suffering.
Every Person Perceived as Evil or a Past Situation That Causes Pain a Blessing
Every person perceived as evil or every situation that causes pain holds the potential for the greater good. They are all "blessings in disguise." This powerful blessing reveals itself, inside you and outside in the world, when you surrender to being within and forgive and bless the people and situation that caused you harm.
Now if someone steals from your home or harms someone physically, he will have punishment from the right authorities. But after that event, you don't add another layer of mental suffering and continuously identify with that event. That person will get the punishment of his Karma in this world anyway.
The Powerful Habit of Transforming Difficult Times
This powerful habit consists of forgiving and blessing difficult people and situations and, most importantly, thanking God for these difficult times and tragedies in your life. So Forgive, Bless, and Thank. But before that, let's understand what real forgiveness is.
Two Types of Forgiveness. And what is real forgiveness
There are two ways people forgive. This is discussed in the book The Course in Miracles.
Ego's forgiveness
This is the way most people forgive. Ego says, “I forgive you for being so bad with me. I forgive you for your crime or sin”
This puts them, the all-wise judge, on a higher step than the one they are forgiving.
They are the judge who knows right from wrong. Their ego says you wronged me, but I'm also so generous and merciful. Their ego tricked them again and again into identifying like this.
In this way, Ego feels superior in forgiving others and pointing out their sins. So, it is Ego’s Forgiveness
There is another kind of forgiveness and that’s
Love's Forgiveness
Love’s forgiveness comes from your inner being. Here you realize that you are not mind and body but awareness. So whatever you think people did or harmed you never happened.
Yes. It happened to mind and body.
But if you don't identify with mind-body and identify with the inner being that Jesus also called the kingdom of heaven, then that hurt never happened to you. That harm or injustice had never occurred to you. Because You are deathless, eternal awareness and not mind-body
By remembering that you are Being and not mind body, you get awake and attain salvation. Then, fewer outer situations and people affect you as you act from Being. Forgiveness from Being is forgiveness for salvation. Hence, Love's Forgiveness is a Gift to Yourself.
On one level, “what you thought that other person did to you has not occurred” means that he didn't take away your peace and joy.
Nothing anyone did to you can take away your peace of God.
Only you can do it.
Dissolving the Negative Energy of the Past Events and Situations
If someone commits a heinous crime, they belong in prison.
And your emotional and physical pain is not to be buried or denied.
But we add a layer of suffering to that pain, which is done in our minds by continuously keeping that memory alive and living that memory thousands of times instead of Resting in our Being.
That's why Jesus said: "Resist not evil."
When you blame past painful situations, the energy of it will cling to you for life. It's looking for a resolution and healing. It will draw back to you if you are not releasing and letting go of that energy by forgiving and blessing those challenging people and situations. Once you surrender within and act from your being energy instead of your mind energy, it will not return to you.
When will Suffering Leave You
The suffering will leave you once it has finished teaching you. It will not go away until it has taught you what you must learn. The situations and people that trigger you are the messengers of unhealed parts within you. In a way, these trials and tribulations make you realize your true nature, which is pure awareness that is limitless and expansive.
The Greatest Miracle of All Evil and Suffering
Enlightenment is the total acceptance that everything in the world is happening according to God's will; through which person it happens is God's will; how each happening affects you is also God's will.
The greatest miracle of all evil and suffering in the world is that it forces humans to awaken and realize being -God itself- beyond their names and different forms of possessions, relationships, and recognitions of the world. And until you forgive the relative evil (as there is no absolute evil) that happens to you, evil will remain evil and not reveal itself to you as the greater good.
How to Transform Evil into Greater Good
You can Transform Evil Into The Greater Good by Love’s Forgiveness.
When you forgive and bless past painful situations and people, an intense stillness arises inside and around you. That is consciousness itself. You vibrate at the energy of peace. Anything or anybody entering into the peaceful energy will be affected by it. Sometimes, that happens immediately, and other times, it occurs later.
You will resolve quarrels, heal suffering, and dissolve unconsciousness without making any efforts- simply by emanating the powerful silent energy of intense awareness. Awareness is your true nature when you surrender inward.
Great teaching there…thanks for the insight