Difficult People & Situations
Why does life bring painful situations and people to you and how can you attain freedom from your karma and suffering?
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Why does life bring pain, and how can you break free from karma and suffering?
Suffering will leave you once it has finished teaching you. Suffering will not disappear until it has taught you what you must learn. The situations and people that trigger you are the messengers of unconscious parts within you. We encounter them repeatedly because the universe wants us to become conscious of our unhealed parts so we can heal them in light of our consciousness. They are not there to comfort you. They are there to make you destroy all that is limited in you.
In a way, these trials and tribulations make you realize your true nature, which is pure awareness that is limitless and expansive.
How is the World Helping And Teaching You?
Suffering brings Awakening.
Sometimes, the world will teach you:
To love by giving you hatred,
To be kind by being cruel and
To be conscious by manifesting unconsciousness.
Be aware when you’re going through pain and suffering. Surrender to the wisdom the universe is trying to teach you.
This is the miracle of Surrender: In every person or situation that appears “evil” or “painful” lies a seed of greater good for you. This powerful blessing reveals itself when you surrender to inner Being and bring inner acceptance to what IS.
That’s why Jesus said: “Resist not evil.”
“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” – Eckhart Tolle
Karma: The Key to Freedom from Suffering
Who decides what kinds of people and situations you must face? Your allocated karma (Prarabdha Karma) is responsible for that.
We will talk about two kinds of karma to understand why we face painful situations and people repeatedly.
1. Accumulated Karma
Accumulated Karma (Sanchita Karma) is the sum of one’s past karmas—the fruits of all actions, good and bad, from one’s past lives. It’s a kind of vast storehouse where all our fruits of past life karma are heaped and accumulated.
2. Allocated Karma
Allocated Karma (Prarabdha Karma): Allocated Karma is some portion of the accumulated karma given to you by divinity in the present birth.
Allocated karma will act on you in the form of your life situations till you die. Externally, whatever people and situations you encounter is due to your allocated karma. That includes everything you were handed over to you by the universe: Your family, neighborhood, country, spouse, children, people, situations etc.
Internally, your allocated karma is your habits, mental tendencies, and inclinations which you show in your present birth.
Allocated karma cannot be avoided or changed; it is only exhausted by experiencing it. Allocated karma refers to the pre-destined life situations and people you must encounter in your current life. It can be good or bad! Allocated karma only influences outward activities you engage in with your mind and body.
Once you surrender and abide in your inner being, allocated karma ceases to operate on you. This means that when you surrender to Being and become IT, whatever happens to your mind and body doesn’t affect you, and you are FREE from the allocated Karma.
If Allocated Karma is Our Destiny, How Can We Change The Destiny?
If allocated karma is your assigned destiny in this present birth, then Resting in Being, that is, surrendering your mind to your inner Being, is your only powerful Free Will. This Exclusive Free will is also the divine will. Once you surrender your mind to the inner Being, the divine will activate, and now the universe will use your mind-body to fulfill its purpose.
It sounds almost paradoxical. Resting in Being and Free will. Let me explain. Your Free will is to be conscious and act from your being. Whenever you surrender and act from being, God is taking charge of you, and all the allocated karma dissolves, and with that, all your trials and tribulations stop. Hence, by Resting in Being, you surrender your will to God.
Resting in Being is also called “Non-Doership.” Your mind is not the doer, but divinity is the doer through your mind-body.
Doership is simply acting from egoic consciousness. Non-doership is acting from Being-(God) consciousness.
Resting in Being (Non-Doership) is very Active and Dynamic
Contrary to our understanding, non-doership is not passive. Non-doership, which involves abiding and resting in being, is active and dynamic. Simply being and remaining as one's true self is the “highest form" of doing. By abiding in being, you will undo most of your non-essential actions that drain your life energy.
Please understand that once God takes over your mind-body instrument, nothing is left undone. You will attain liberation even while engaged with the world. It’s a practice in which God uses your mind and body, and all things are done without unnecessary mental analysis and judgment.
God is No-Thing and he does nothing, yet he leaves nothing undone. The ordinary man always does things, yet many things are left undone.
Don’t ask anything from God. Just pray this, “Oh God, Make Me Your Own, Do As You Will. Use me for your purpose.
Once you are Being and cease to exist as mind-body, you will find that the painful situation changes itself without your reaction. “Being energy” makes you vibrate at a very high energy level.
Painful situations will not surround you and affect you at this higher energy level; instead, you’ll attract new circumstances that will help you in your spiritual evolution, which reflects this higher frequency.
Non-Doership: Surrender To Being and Have Total Freedom From The Karma
Allocated Karmas are only applicable and act on you as long as you believe yourself separate from the Being (God, Self, Atma). As you are not conscious of inner Being and only have mind-body awareness, you will pass through a series of pre-destined activities and experiences, all of which are the consequences of previous birth acts and thoughts. In that way, you are bound by destiny.
For a person who lives from ego, every act and experience in his life is determined at birth. He also has the greatest freedom to surrender to being and realize Being. However, when one realizes the Being, there is no separate person with mind-body left to experience the consequences of actions, so the whole structure of karmic laws becomes redundant. Then he will be free from allocated karma as Being (God) is the doer, and no person is acting and experiencing.
Whenever we act as the doer, we are in ego consciousness. If you wish to remain in ego consciousness, you must experience and live out your allocated karma. Alternatively, you can surrender to being and be FREE of all your karma.
How the Divine Works Through You to Create Change!
The only way to let God act through you is by non-doership, surrendering your mind to being, and letting the divine work through you.
This is how divinity creates the change through you:
It allows and accepts what it IS!
If those life situations are not suitable for your spiritual evolution, they will be changed effortlessly without the involvement of unnecessary mind judgments.
If acceptance and change are NOT optimal options for you, divinity will remove you from the situation.
Hence, a real change occurs through non-doership in which only God is the doer.
Don’t Run Away From Life or Act From Unconsciousness
You will always suffer if you run away from your life situations, relationships, and challenges instead of letting God work through you by surrendering to Being.
If you run away instead of “turning inward,” you will attract the same situations and circumstances elsewhere.
Running away is never the answer. Turning inward and abiding in Being is the answer. Contemplate the changes you have done in your life with stressful struggles. See if it is true what we already learned above!
True Surrender: To Realize God, You Need To End All The Relationships With God
True surrender is going beyond worshipping God in a subject-object relationship. Surrender is only complete when the one who imagines themselves to be separate from God has ceased to exist.
God is within us as Being itself! Any relationship with God (devotee, worshipper, servant, etc.) is illusory. True devotion is resting and abiding in being, in which all ideas about a relationship with God have ended.
It simply means that any personal god, whether he is Jesus, Mohammad, Buddha, or Krishna, is within us, and we are that. That’s what Jesus meant when he said, “Be still and Know That I am God”.
Enlightenment is the total acceptance that everything in the world is happening according to God’s will; through which person it happens is God’s will; how each happening affects you is also God’s will.
Freedom from Karma, Suffering & Mind’s Conditioning
Once you surrender to Being, you will transcend the old mental conditioning that attracted those painful experiences as your mind merges with Being. The base metal (mind) will transmute into Gold (Being). Those experiences can include a dysfunctional marriage or career, family issues related to your children or parents, health problems, and more. Your old relationships will improve or cease to be your reality. Your suffering had a purpose. Because of that suffering, you are awakened by allowing your mind to abide in being.
If you surrender to the fact that the universe is here to make you awaken instead of happy, then your interactions with the world become a sacred spiritual practice that leads you to spiritual awakening, which is the primary purpose of your life
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