Hatred
And a powerful and simple way to heal any relationship
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Why does hatred arise within us, and what is the most direct way to dissolve it?
Whenever you feel intense hatred for someone, let me share a powerful, simple secret to dissolve it that is obvious but seldom used.
“This approach will only be effective with someone with whom you genuinely wish to deepen your relationship from your heart. Some people may reflect love back more powerfully than others. This post is about having an authentic, yet NOT compulsive, intention to heal a relationship."
“You can love someone and still choose to say goodbye to them. You can miss a person every day, and still be glad that they are no longer in your life.” ― Tara Westover, Educated
Healing the Relationship With That Person
Begin by becoming present—take a few conscious breaths and connect with the stillness within. Stay there for five minutes, allowing yourself to center in your Being. Bring with you the sincere intention to heal the relationship.
Now, set aside your hatred and ego for a little while and arrange a long conversation with that person.
It is that simple? Yes, it is!
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You will find it difficult to continue hating after long, heartfelt communication. That’s why people who want to maintain their hatred do this first: they stop talking to the person and cut off contact. They say, “I won’t face them.”
"Because they lack the courage to consciously explain their anger from the heart, without needing to express it."
Explain your anger consciously, don't express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions instead of arguments.
Avoidance makes it easier to nurture negativity and create stories in the mind about them. But when you face the person directly and stand before them, your hatred begins to lose its grip.
Have you noticed this?
The people you want to hate are the ones you immediately cut ties with—you decide not to face them, not to even see their faces.
This behavior is nothing but a dirty, primitive conditioning of the mind. It’s self-destructive. The simplest way to dissolve hatred is this:
Go and talk to them. Spend an hour in conversation.
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